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Abuse, Atheism, Christianity

What I Miss About God’s Judgement

For nearly twenty years I preached, taught, lectured and judged my way through a career in religion. In the end, I couldn’t do it anymore and I needed to say sorry. Sorry for the bigotry. Sorry for the hypocrisy. Sorry for the judgement. Yes, as an effective evangelist I judged a lot of people. But an effective evangelist is somewhat of a godlike figure in the church, heralded and celebrated…

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Abuse, Christianity, Church

5 Things Churches Get Wrong About Mental Illness

I have a number of religious and exvangelical friends who have expressed concern about the way that their church discusses mental illness*. Let’s take this recent tweet posted in August from Desiring God, a highly regarded ministry with international acclaim, as an example: Firstly, this implies that people facing depression aren’t already faithful. Secondly, if these six “quick and easy” steps work in a matter of hours, it’s not depression, it’s…

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Abuse, Christianity, Church

How Does Power Work In Evangelical Churches?

The issue of male violence has been recently re-ignited as a result of the #metoo movement, with the related #churchtoo response also gathering momentum. Social media has blazed with commentary from those affected by abusive relationships within evangelical and fundamentalist churches all over the world, taking to #exvangelical and #emptythepews on Twitter to voice their pain and rage at abusive church practices. Last year I published a book into the…

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Abuse, Christianity

“Not All Christians” And Other Responses That Miss The Point

The current discussion around domestic violence, thanks to the brave clergy wives who shared their stories on the ABC recently, has made the church publicly accountable for the ways they have failed the women in their congregations. The #churchtoo movement on Twitter, has also ignited a number of conversations surrounding spiritual trauma and the physical and emotional abuse inflicted by members of the church, often in the name of Jesus….

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Abuse, Atheism, God

Trauma As The Catalyst For Loving Or Losing Religion

In the many conversations I’ve had about religion in the last two months, trauma seems to be a reoccurring catalyst for spiritual change. Many who were once active participants in the church left, and many who hadn’t been religiously affiliated started filling the pews on a Sunday morning. For both of these groups, God played a role. I think trauma has a way of making us feel more human. All…

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